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What Happens If You File for Divorce First?

Deciding to file for divorce can be a daunting prospect, and many people wonder if filing first gives them an advantage. In reality, the answer may not be as straightforward as you think. Let’s explore what it means to file for divorce first, the potential advantages and disadvantages, and the steps that follow.

Understanding the Filing Process

When you choose to file for divorce first, you become the Petitioner, while your spouse is designated as the Respondent. This designation comes with specific responsibilities and rights, and understanding them is key to navigating the process smoothly.

  • Control Over Timing and Location: As the Petitioner, you have the power to decide when and where to file your divorce case. This can be crucial if you have concerns about the court’s location or timing.
  • Initial Court Filing Fee: You will be responsible for paying the court filing fee, which typically ranges from $435 to $500, depending on your county.
  • Serving Divorce Papers: Once you file, you must serve your spouse with the divorce papers, officially notifying them about the proceedings.

Does Filing First Provide an Advantage?

Many believe that filing first gives you control over the divorce process, but in most amicable situations, the difference may be minimal. However, there are scenarios where filing first can be beneficial:

  • Different Counties: If you and your spouse live in different counties, filing first allows you to choose the court in which your case will be heard. This can have a significant impact on the proceedings.
  • Preventing Hidden Assets: Filing first can initiate financial disclosures earlier, which helps in preventing your spouse from hiding assets.
  • Anticipating Disagreements: In rare cases where disputes are expected, being the Petitioner allows you to present your case first in court.

However, it’s essential to note that in most uncontested divorces, the order of filing does not significantly influence the outcome.

What Happens After You File for Divorce?

Once you have filed for divorce, several critical steps follow:

  1. Serve Your Spouse: After filing, you must serve your spouse with the divorce papers. They have 30 days to respond, although a response is not required in uncontested cases.
  2. Exchange Financial Disclosures: Both parties must exchange financial disclosures, which include listing assets, debts, and income. Common forms used are FL-150 and FL-160.
  3. Sign a Settlement Agreement: If both spouses reach an agreement, they can sign a settlement agreement, which eliminates the need for a court battle.
  4. Submit Final Judgment: After a waiting period of six months, you can submit the final judgment for court approval, finalizing the divorce.

A Real Client Story

To illustrate the importance of getting the filing process right, consider this real client story. A recent client attempted to file for divorce on their own. However, their paperwork was rejected not once, but twice due to errors. After seeking assistance, we corrected the mistakes, refiled everything, and managed to get their divorce finalized without further delays. This underscores the importance of proper filing and the potential pitfalls of attempting to navigate the process alone.

How Divorce661.com Makes Filing for Divorce Easy & Stress-Free

At Divorce661.com, we understand that the divorce process can be overwhelming. That’s why we offer a range of services to ensure everything is handled correctly:

  • Correct Preparation and Filing: We prepare and file your divorce petition accurately, minimizing the risk of rejections.
  • Service of Process: We handle the service of process for you, ensuring that your spouse is properly notified.
  • Financial Disclosures: We assist in completing financial disclosures accurately to avoid complications.
  • Fast Approval of Final Judgment: We submit your final judgment package for quick approval, aiming to finalize your divorce as soon as possible.

Thinking About Filing for Divorce First?

If you’re contemplating filing for divorce first, it’s essential to ensure that it’s done correctly. We invite you to contact Divorce661.com for a free consultation. Our experienced team is ready to help guide you through the process, ensuring that you don’t face unnecessary hurdles.

Conclusion

Filing for divorce first may offer some strategic advantages, but it’s not the end-all, be-all solution for controlling the process. Understanding your role as the Petitioner and the steps that follow is crucial for a smooth divorce experience. Whether you choose to file first or not, having the right support can make all the difference in achieving a favorable outcome.

For any questions or concerns about your divorce, feel free to drop a comment below. We’re here to help you navigate this challenging time with clarity and support.

 

How Long Do You Have To Be Married To Get Spouses Social Security

How Long Do You Have To Be Married To Get Spouses Social Security

Tim: Now there are some requirements as far as length of marriage, is that correct? Can you give us some details on that?

Janelle: Yes. You have to be married at least ten years to be able to claim this in both situations.

So if you’re close to the ten year point, you might want to delay a little bit just to give yourself the option as being able to claim that their benefits as well.

Tim: So with these ten years rules, ten years in a day and this is applicable to them?

Janelle: Yes.

Tim: Okay.

Janelle: Uh-huh.

Tim: So it’s definitely something they’ll want to consider when going through divorce if you’re over ten years to see how that place out.

Can you get copies from the state as far as your disability payments will they give you?

Janelle: For this Social Security go to the Social Security website

Tim: For Social Security. Uh-huh.

Janelle: So they’ll go in the website and you can get a copy of yours and your spouse’s benefits, and so they’re going to be—

Tim: You can. This is as simple as going online?

Janelle: Yeah you have to create an account for yourself but yeah you can go online.

Tim: Okay.

Janelle: or else call the Social Security Department but it’s easier to usually go online.

Tim: Got yeah. Okay.

 

How Social Security Spousal Benefits Work During California Divorce

How Social Security Spousal Benefits Work During California Divorce

Tim:  Okay so let’s talk about a Social Security Benefits specifically there are two types of benefits, right?  There are Spousal Benefits and then there’s Survivor Benefits, is that correct?

Janelle: Correct. So you get these Spousal benefits if your divorced spouse is still alive. And then the Divorce Survivor Benefits are if they have passed away. So they’re a little bit different.

Tim: Okay, let’s tackle this into a chance here. Let’s first talk about a Divorce Spousal Benefits. So this is both parties are still living.

Janelle: Right.

Tim: Let’s talk about some of the like rules and requirements.

Janelle: Okay. Well the earliest you can receive the benefits is if you’re a 62 years old. You wait ‘til your full retirement age which depends varying on when you’re born.

So yeah, if you have any questions you can give me a call on what exactly your full retirement age is.   But then you are entitled to a 100% of your benefits or 50% of your divorce spouse benefits.

Tim: Okay, and I’d ask you some specific questions off camera, what would make—why would one want 50% of the other spouse’s or of their spouse’s versus 100% of their own.

Janelle: On some cases the divorce spouse was making a lot more money and has a higher Social Security Benefit than you’re going to have, so, you want to look at that if for some reason maybe they’re making $2000 and you’re only making $500, you’re entitled to half their benefits which will be a $1000 a month instead of the 500.

So it’s a case by case. You want to go in and get statements for both of your Social Security Benefits and determine which one would be better for you.

Tim: Okay, and so particularly if you have a family where a husband perhaps worked and maybe the wife took care of the kids there’ll be a scenario where this would you know could possibly be a factor.

They’d want to take a look at this.

Janelle: Definitely or if the husband made a lot more money and then the wife did or she had a lower paying job as well.

Tim: Okay. Now there are some requirements as far as length of marriage, is that correct? Can you give us some detail on that?

Janelle: Yes. You have to be married at least 10 years to be able to claim this in both situations.

So if you’re close to the 10 year point you might want to delay a little bit just to give yourself the option of just being able to claim that their benefit as well.

Tim: So with this 10 year rules 10 year in a day and this is applicable to them?

Janelle: Yes.

Tim: Okay. So it’s definitely something they want to consider when going through a divorce if you’re over 10 years to see how that place out.

Can you get copies from the State as far as your disability payments will they give you?

Janelle: For the Social Security go in the Social Security website.

Tim:  Social Security– uh-huh…

Janelle: So they’ll go on the website and you can get a copy of yours and your spouse’s benefits.

Tim: You can?

Janelle: And so they’re going to be –

Tim: It’s as simple as going online?

Janelle: Yeah you have to create an account for yourself but yeah you can go online.

Tim: Okay.

Janelle: Or else call the Social Security Department but it’s easier usually to go online.

Tim: Got you! Okay.

How Does Remarriage Affect Social Security Benefits After Divorce

How Does Remarriage Affect Social Security Benefits After Divorce

Tim: I just want to touch on one topic if you’re going to claim the divorce spousal benefits what is the rule in regards to being getting remarried, you would loose it if you get remarried? Am I reading that correctly?

Janelle: Yes. If you remarried you can’t get this unless your second marriage ends into divorce. If your second marriage ends then if it was longer than ten years then you have a choice of whose you want to claim. You can claim either spouse.

Tim: So oh interesting! So I–you get divorced you’re collecting let’s say and you remarried that would terminate the collection of Social Security from the prior marriage?

Janelle: Yes, it would.

Tim: Okay. And then if they divorced again then they have—well they have to be married for at least another ten years?

Janelle: Right and then makes the action and if they do get divorced before ten years they can claim the first spouse’s social security.

Tim: They go back or either back and claim it.

Janelle: Right.

Tim: Okay.

Getting A Divorce | Review Your Finances Using The Financial Divorce Checklist

Getting A Divorce | Review Your Finances Using The Financial Divorce Checklist

Tim: So you with Edward Jones you’ve come up with a divorce checklist and I liked it the check boxes and all that.

You’re suggesting that you know of course this is a good time to do a lot of things, the Auto Insurance, Life Insurance, Financial Planning and so forth.

This is the time where you need to sit down regardless of what’s into this divorce you’re on if you’re the working spouse or not the working spouse to do a financial review and that’s a service that you offer for Edward Jones, is that correct?

Janelle: Yes, that’s correct.

Tim: Okay, let’s talk about a little bit about that. I don’t know if you want to talk about the checklist first, you want to talk about just the financial review in general?

Janelle: Oh well, let’s talk about the checklist.

Tim: Okay.

Janelle: Because it leads into that the financial review.

Tim: Perfect!

Janelle: So this is a checklist that we put together just with the basics. It’s a difficult time. It’s easy since there’s so much paper work in everything to think about.

It will help you go through and take a look at the different things you need to think about.

Some of the big ones on here are making sure that you change your beneficiaries on your Life Insurance.

If you have an IRA that you’re going to keep and it’s not going to be divided you want to make sure that, that beneficiaries changed as well.

You don’t want something to happen to you and the money going to the wrong spouse.

Tim: Okay.

Janelle: I’m also in here talking about, you know, setting up trust and living will, [durable 2:26] powers of attorney.

Tim: Uh-huh…

Janelle: All these and the things that go along with that as well.

 

Free Divorce Financial Review With Janelle Percy At Edward Jones

Free Divorce Financial Review With Janelle Percy At Edward Jones

Tim: Why don’t you let people know how they can get a hold of you?

Janelle: Yes, my office is in Stevenson Ranch of the Old Road and you can get a hold of me at 661-799-2789.

Tim: And give Janelle a call and she will provide a free financial review. We’re also going to be recommending Janelle to all of our clients going through the Divorce process with us. It doesn’t hurt whether you’re going through divorce or not, it’s probably once a year—

Janelle: Exactly!

Tim: …you could sit down and do something like this and this is a major life turning or life changing event rather and you know you’re going to be dealing with finances and the kids and all these other stuff you don’t enjoy, so, mind as well take this time to sit down with Janelle and do a financial view and review at the same time I don’t see why any of our clients would turn this down.

Janelle: No, exactly.

Tim: I think it’s a great service you provide. And you know people would say to me thank you for serving and same to you thank you for serving and I don’t ever know how to respond to that.

Janelle: I know.

Tim: It’s like yeah okay thanks you know this is what we did.

Janelle: Exactly!

Tim: So but anyways thanks for coming and please give Janelle a call if you would like your free financial review or talk about life insurance or if you have questions about the Social Security that we discussed in these videos. Other than that thanks for tuning in and we’ll talk to you soon.

Claiming Your Spouses Social Security Does Not Reduce Amount Earned By Spouse

Claiming Your Spouses Social Security Does Not Reduce Amount Earned By Spouse

Tim: I just want to touch on one topic if you’re going to claim the divorce spousal benefits what is the rule in regards to being getting remarried, you would loose it if you get remarried? Am I reading that correctly?

Janelle: Yes. If you remarried you can’t get this unless your second marriage ends in the divorce. If your second marriage ends then if it was longer than ten years then you have a choice of whose you want to claim. You can claim either spouse.

Tim: So oh interesting! So I–you get divorced you’re collecting let’s say and you remarried that would terminate the collection of Social Security from the prior marriage?

Janelle: Yes, it would.

Tim: Okay. And then if they divorced again then they have—well they have to be married for at least another ten years?

Janelle: Right and then makes the action and if they do get divorced before ten years they can claim the first spouse’s social security.

Tim: They go back or either back and claim it.

Janelle: Right.

Tim: Okay. So and spouse say I hope they get remarried. It’s not an end all to the Social Security. They could come back if the first or second marriage doesn’t work out either.

Janelle: Right and the Social Security really doesn’t really affects the spouse, it’s the government paying it. It’s not detrimental, you’re not taking away any of either spouses social security benefits. It’s the government that’s making it—

Tim: Oh! It’s not deducted from the spouse?

Janelle: No. The government is taking it so it’s not like your– if you have yours and you get divorced and now your spouse is claiming yours it’s not you we cannot reduce yours at all. So—

Tim: So there’s no detriment to the other party to do this?

Janelle: No, there’s not.

Tim: So they should certainly look at this?

Janelle: Right.

Tim: …when going through a divorce it’s not going to harm the other party at all.

Janelle: No it’s not going to harm them. It’s just a government benefit.

Tim: We’ve had clients say ‘I have to keep all of my Social Security benefits.’ like they said that to us but had they not said that it’s not going to impact them negatively–and the only way is?

Janelle: And the only way that it could possibly is if in the Divorce Decree it’s stated that if the spouse gets a $1000 they have to pay the other spouse some portion of that.

Tim: Like a percentage?

Janelle: Right. And that would just be in the Decree if you’re saying you know spousal support you’re going to collect some of the Social Security. If you’re just filing for the government it doesn’t affect anyone’s.

California Divorce Attorney Won’t Continue Hearing And Plays Games

California Divorce Attorney Won’t Continue Hearing And Plays Games

Today we’re going to tell you a little story about some attorneys that’s been playing games in some of the clients we’ve been assisting.

I’m going to be doing more videos like this just when we find attorneys doing things that just you know not doing things in the best of clients or children.

So we have a client that came to us. They had received a package in the mail.

It turned out that they had been served after the divorce has finalized, a modification of child custody visitation which if you watched the prior video you know that that’s allowable.

However they mailed it to incorrect address which delayed that arriving to their house.

There was a unit number attached and the unit number attached and they didn’t put the unit number and it was given to a wrong address and the parties when they received it there was not enough time for them to respond.

So I told them to first call the attorney and ask for continuance, so, they’ll have enough time and let them know, ‘Hey you did not serve me properly.’

Well the attorney who played games said basically, ‘Too bad.’ And take us to the court.

So we fax the letter over to the attorney basically giving them 24 hours to be nice and continue the hearing otherwise we’re going to file an Ex-Parte Motion with the court.

And they decline to call or do anything with that so we file the motion with the court.

Ex-Parte they’re actually going there this morning probably in about five minutes to have their hearing.

So what happened is we filed, we leave Ex-Parte Notice.

And the attorney called our client back about three hours later saying ‘You know what we’re going to go down to court but we’re going to object to your faulty service of your Ex-Parte Notice.’

So it’s just a big game to some of these attorneys. They have no interest in actually getting the case resolve.

They’d rather go to court to try and stop her from getting to continue.

All she’s asking, all our client is asking is to have a proper time to the motion. That’s it!

And she called them. We wrote a letter and we fax them a letter making this request and then we have to go an Ex-Parte.

And all they have to do is call the clerk and make a joint call and continue the hearing.

But instead of that now they’re down in court, just to continue to ask the hearing so they’ll have time to respond.

But the attorney’s intention of going down today is not agree but rather to go in there and object and force the issue.

It just makes no sense. Unfortunately, what I think attorneys are doing the more often they can get in court the more they can drive out their clients fees the better.

And that’s why these things don’t resolve quickly. Anyways we’re starting a rant a little bit on attorneys because we’re starting to see some serious games being played.

These attorneys are taking advantage of litigants who are representing themselves.

They would never do these if they have attorneys at the other end. I hope this video is helpful.

Please give me a call if you need assistance in your divorce case anywhere in California 661-281-0266 or you can go to Divorce661.com for more information.

Mail Serving Post Judgment Child Custody Modifications | California Divorce

Mail Serving Post Judgment Child Custody Modifications | California Divorce

Today, we’re talking about how to serve Post Judgment Modifications for child custody and child support.

So in a Post Judgment so Post Judgment means your Divorce is finalized and you’re going to file a motion with the court.

Most cases we’ll require you to serve personally serve the other party.

So you can’t just out of the blue mail them some papers that you filed that has a court date attached to it. You need to personally serve them.

However, if you’re trying to modify child custody or child visitation there is a way that you can mail serve the other party.

The reason the courts have done this and it says right there on the form itself.

It says it is done to help offset the cost and make it more affordable to get modification for child custody so you don’t have to hire a process server essentially.

But there is some requirements. I’m not going to go through all of them.

But you have to basically know where this person lives. And you have to fill out an address for verification.

And it’s a form Address Verification, I think it’s FL-334 if I recall correctly. So you have to have one or five or six ways of verifying that the address is correct.

And you’re going to certify that you know that the address is correct.

Either for instance knowing maybe you have been there within the last 30 days or receiving mail or correspondence from the other party with that address or that was the last known address you use for as far as the court papers that the address that used was on that court papers.

So you have to some type of verification that you’re going to certify that you know that’s the case.

And if you meet that criteria and it’s a custody or visitation modification you don’t have to hire a process server and you could actually mail serve those documents.

Just to make sure that you are taking a look at the FL-334 Address Verification form and look at and see one of those five or six reasons there are that you can actually mail serve instead of having to hire a process server.

So I hope that helps on how to mail serve Post Judgment Modifications for child custody visitation.

We serve clients all throughout California. Give me a call if I can be any further assistance to you 661-281-0266.

California Divorce Attorneys Taking Advantage Of Self Represented Clients 1

California Divorce Attorneys Taking Advantage Of Self Represented Clients 1

We don’t complain very often on video but lately we’ve been representing a lot of clients.

I’m can’t say representing—I can’t use that word representation because we’re not a law firm but we are assisting a lot of clients.

I think that’s a better choice of words. We are assisting a lot of clients who are unrepresented by attorneys.

Most cannot afford an attorney or don’t want to spend a money on attorney and where the other party has an attorney.

So what we’re seeing is that the attorneys, because they are unrepresented, our clients are unrepresented they are being taken advantage of by attorneys.

What we’re seeing is attorneys are doing things that they would never do, if the client we’re representing or the client we’re assisting were represented by an attorney.

Now I’ll give you an example. We think that attorneys are going to do the right thing and that we’re talking about Family Law here.

So we think that the parties involved and the children involve would be the priority of the attorneys. It’s just not.

They are I shouldn’t say all of them but the attorneys lately we’re talking about have been all about playing games, being deceitful and trying to do a trip up of all the clients that we’re assisting.

I’ll give you an example. We file the motion, served it on the attorney.

Everything was done correctly and they found a little loophole with which to file an objection.

Now they didn’t file the objection in advance. They didn’t call our client and say, ‘Hey we were going to file an objection.’ Or ‘Hey you did this wrong.’ or anything like that.

What they did they waited till three days before the hearing, filed the objection and said, ‘Oh by the way you’re going to have to redo this.’

So and we scrambled and we got that corrected but the objection they filed would have never done this.

They would have never treated another attorney this way and pulled this type of stunt.

So we started to see a lot of these different things. And we start calling people out on it because its your attorneys—I’m sorry but all of you, you’ve earned that reputation.

You all knew those jokes about attorneys and you guys have some of you have definitely earned the reputation.

Divorce661.com specializing and assisting litigants who do have an attorney, we can help you navigate your divorce.

We can help you navigate through the court system if you are going through legal proceedings in Family Law arena.

Divorce661.com 661-281-0266.