PAYING a CHEATING SPOUSE ALIMONY: Los Angeles Divorce

Short answer: California is a no-fault divorce state. Even if a spouse has an affair, that spouse can still be entitled to spousal support unless there is clear evidence of financial misconduct that changes how the court divides assets or decides support.

an example of California being a no-fault state if your spouse has an affair they can still get spousal support

What does “no-fault” mean in practice?

No-fault means the court does not base the right to divorce, property division, or routine spousal support awards on marital misconduct such as adultery. The judge focuses on objective financial and lifestyle factors rather than assigning blame. The reality: adultery alone is usually not enough to stop an unfaithful spouse from receiving alimony.

When adultery might matter

Adultery can affect the financial outcome only when it caused a direct economic impact on the marriage. Two common examples:

• Dissipation of marital assets — If one spouse spent marital funds on a lover or an affair (extravagant gifts, secret vacations, private school tuition for someone else), the court can treat that as dissipation and adjust property division or award reimbursement.
• Domestic violence or criminal conduct — A documented history of abuse is an express factor the court must consider when deciding spousal support and can weigh heavily against the abusive spouse.

How courts actually decide spousal support in California

California judges evaluate support using a set of statutory factors. The law asks for a holistic look at each spouse’s finances and needs, not who was “at fault.” Key considerations include:

1. The earning capacity and job market prospects of each party
2. Contributions made during the marriage, including homemaking and sacrifices to support the other’s education or career
3. The ability of the paying spouse to meet support obligations while maintaining their own minimum standard of living
4. The needs of each party based on the marital standard of living
5. Length of the marriage — longer marriages often lead to longer or greater support
6. Age, health, and ability to become self-supporting within a reasonable period
7. Any documented history of domestic violence
8. Tax consequences and the balance of hardships

These factors come from California Family Code section 4320. Notice the absence of adultery as a direct factor. The court is trying to balance economic realities, not moral judgments.

Types of spousal support to know

• Temporary (pendente lite) support — Ordered during the divorce process to maintain the parties while the case is pending.
• Rehabilitative support — Intended to help the supported party gain job skills or education to become self-sufficient.
• Long-term or permanent support — May be awarded for long marriages or when the supported party cannot reasonably become self-supporting due to age, disability, or other factors.

Practical steps if adultery is part of your divorce

• Document financial harm — Track bank statements, credit card charges, and transfers that suggest dissipation of marital assets. Proof is what matters.
• Keep detailed budgets — Demonstrate needs and the standard of living during the marriage.
• Consider temporary support — If you need immediate assistance, ask the court for temporary spousal support while the case proceeds.
• Talk to an attorney — A family law lawyer can evaluate whether dissipation or other issues might change property division or support awards.
• Mediation or settlement — Many couples resolve support through negotiation. Knowing the legal baseline helps you negotiate smarter.

Bottom line

Cheating stings and it can feel unfair that an unfaithful spouse might receive support. Legally, however, California prioritizes economic fairness over fault. Adultery only changes the financial picture when it produced demonstrable harm to the marital estate or when there are other aggravating factors like abuse. Focus on documenting finances, understanding the statutory factors that determine support, and getting good legal advice to protect your financial future.