How to Handle a Divorce When One Spouse Controls the Finances
Divorce can be an overwhelming and complex process, especially when one spouse has managed most or all of the financial matters during the marriage. If you find yourself in this situation, feeling out of the loop or unsure about your financial standing, it’s crucial to take proactive steps to protect yourself and ensure a fair outcome. I’m Tim Blankenship from Divorce661, and I want to guide you through what you need to know and do when facing a divorce where financial control was in your spouse’s hands.
Understanding the Challenges of Financial Control in Divorce
Many marriages operate with one partner handling the money—paying bills, managing accounts, and making financial decisions. While this arrangement might have worked during the marriage, it often becomes a significant hurdle during divorce. The spouse who was less involved can feel vulnerable, uncertain about assets, debts, and the true financial picture.
Being left out of financial decisions doesn’t mean you have no rights. California law requires both parties to provide full and honest financial disclosure during divorce proceedings. Failure to do so can have serious legal consequences. Knowing your rights and how to uncover the truth is vital to protecting your financial future.
Step 1: Gather All Financial Information You Can
The first step is to collect as much financial documentation as possible. Even if your spouse has been the one managing the finances, start with what you can find. This includes:
- Tax returns
- Bank and credit card statements
- Mortgage documents
- Retirement account summaries
- Loan balances
- Business or investment records
Look for digital statements, printed records, emails—anything that gives you a window into your financial situation. Make copies for your own reference. The goal is to begin building a clear picture of your financial landscape, even if you don’t have full access yet.
Step 2: Document Your Current Financial Picture
Once you have gathered what you can, start tracking your ongoing finances. This means understanding:
- Your regular household expenses
- Current income sources
- Any temporary support you may be receiving or paying
Creating this snapshot will be invaluable for negotiations or court filings. It helps you know where you stand and what you might need moving forward.
Step 3: Addressing Hidden Assets and Non-Cooperation
Sometimes, one spouse may hide assets or refuse to share financial information. In these cases, professional help is essential. Divorce professionals can assist you in requesting formal financial disclosures and, if necessary, issuing subpoenas to uncover hidden accounts or debts.
For example, we recently worked with a client who had no idea about the number of accounts or debts in her name because her spouse had always handled the money and refused to share details during the divorce. By filing formal financial disclosures and pursuing the necessary legal steps, we uncovered multiple undisclosed accounts. This information was critical in negotiating a fair settlement for her.
How Divorce661 Supports You Through Financial Complexity
At Divorce661, we specialize in helping clients who feel overwhelmed or out of the loop when it comes to finances during divorce. We focus on empowering you to:
- Gather the right financial information
- Understand what it all means
- Protect your interests throughout the process
- Move forward with clarity and confidence
Our flat-fee divorce services are designed for complex financial situations, providing 100% remote support throughout California. You don’t have to navigate this challenging time alone or feel disadvantaged because you weren’t the one managing the money.
Take Control of Your Financial Future Today
If you are going through a divorce and your spouse has controlled the finances, don’t wait to take action. Start by gathering what financial information you can, document your current expenses and income, and seek professional help if you suspect dishonesty or hidden assets.
Remember, California law requires full and honest financial disclosure from both parties. You have the right to know the truth and to secure a fair settlement.
Visit Divorce661.com to schedule a free consultation. We’ll help you regain control, uncover what you need to know, and guide you every step of the way toward a more secure financial future.