Over the several years I have been helping people get through the divorce process I can tell you that one of the things you will have to do is break the news to your spouse that you want a divorce.
Now with many of our clients, when I ask them if they have told their spouse they want a divorce, they will say that they have or at least they know it will not come as a surprise. For some, however, they have not told their spouse they want a divorce, even though the writing has been on the wall for years.
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There is no easy way to tell your spouse you want a divorce. For those who have already discussed it, it usually comes about as they are having an argument on too many occasions and someone says maybe we should just get a divorce.
If you are thinking about getting divorced, I think in most cases and is the experience of our clients, that the other spouse should be at least somewhat aware that you want to get a divorce or that things are bad enough that you don’t want to be married anymore.
I say this with a grain of salt thought, because I know that having done this for so long that the majority of people filing for divorce are woman and many of the men say they had no idea that things were so bad that their wife wanted a divorce.
I hear often from women that things were just in a rut and the men just went along with their daily routine as if everything was fine while the wife wanted things to change. One day I will figure out what this is all about.
If you have not told your spouse you want to get a divorce I would say that there is probably no right time, but that sooner is probably better than later. You don’t want to get to a point where you despise the them because you held off from telling them for so long.
My clients have told me that when they finally got to telling their spouse they wanted a divorce that after the encounter they felt a sense of relief and calm as the anxiety from holding this back was a source of great stress.