Today will be a fun and exciting day, of not exhausting. I have already been up since 4 a.m. and I am taking the day off to spend with my family.

Our 2nd born, Justin, graduates from Valencia High School today. So being that we do everything last minute, we are up early to take care of all the pre celebratory things one must accomplish. Everything from picking up the cake we ordered to getting balloons.

I also have to pick up the motorhome from storage. Why you ask? Because it is the ultimate mother and law quarters. No, not kidding and not trying to be mean. We have some family coming in and the motorhome is a perfect, private place for company to stay.

I mean, if it gets too loud in the house tonight ( son having some friends over) my wife and I might decide to stay in the RV.

Today is also my wife’s birthday. I think she is going to get cheated, what with it being my son’s day of graduation. I am going to take her to breakfast and then we are also going to lunch for my son’s graduation, but I think she knows that today will be more about him than her.

I don’t think she will mind. Our daughter came home from UCLA last night and will also be spending the weekend with us, so pretty sure she is a happy mommy.

We’ll it’s going on 5:30 and the birds are chirping and there is just enough light to be able to see outside. Time to get going as I am “burning daylight” as my dad used to say.

Have a nice Memorial Day weekend and be safe!

One of my goals when I started my company 5 years ago was to be transparent and provide as much California divorce assistance as I could.

Check Out Tim On Social to learn more about me personally!

 

So to date I have recorded over 1000 videos and written over 2000 divorce self help articles as well as a daily podcast.

Then, about 2 years ago, my wife told me that if I truly wanted to be transparent and stand out, I needed to let my guard down and let people know who I really am.

So I started writing a personal blog, which you are reading right now. The are mostly just glimpses into my personal life, things you would see on Social Media from your friends.

Then I decided to take it one step further a few months ago. I created a page where I share pretty much everything personal about me that I post on Social Media, both personal and professional.

I thought it was important that my clients see me as a real person as opposed to some person behind a company name.

You can learn more about me by visiting the navigation link that says ” Tim On Social” where I aggregate all my social media posts so you can see that I am just a regular person like you and hope you identify with me better and hopefully instill some trust factor.

Hope your are having a great day and enjoying this warm 95 degree weather we are having in Southern California.

I have to first admit that I classify myself as more of a realist. This is just a fancy term I guess for being somewhat negative minded or at least more of “expect the worst but hope for the best” kind of mentality.

I know that is supposed to be different, but I do find myself not surprised when things go wrong. Almost like i expected it to go wrong.

Not that things go wrong often, but rather I am learning that it is my perspective on things that shape our reality. Deep right? But what I am working on, and maybe it is a sign of getting older, is trying to have a better outlook on life and not be so stressed out about things that don’t matter or that have even happened yet.

I will give you an example. My wife surprises me on Sunday night and randomly makes reservations at an RV Resort in Needles, CA., called Pirates Cove. I love taking our motorhome out and love the Colorado River, but my mind instantly goes to concern.

My first thoughts. How long is the drive? Did we get river front? Is it full hookups? And a thousand other things flood through my head. How about, “Sounds awesome, let’s go!”

But I am working on it and making improvements. I am at the point where I can actually detect when I am thinking negative and sort of catch myself to make a change in my thoughts or perspective.

This is huge for me and a good first step.

I even catch myself while driving being annoyed by drivers, the way they drive, etc., you know what I mean. I caught myself the other day and said, “who cares, I’ll get home, not need to rush home” (on my 5 minute commute from my office to my house)

I have to tell you, the little change in mindset had made a huge difference. It is almost as if the world will deliver what your expectations are, to a degree.

Think something bad will happen and perhaps it will or at least a situation will be seen through a certain filter that presents itself that way. Think something good and maybe that will happen as well.

As an example, while we were driving to Pirates Cove in Needles, CA, i just tried to focus on the good things and fun and relaxing we will enjoy. And wouldn’t you know it, we’re having a great time.

Yes, I have had a few relapses along the way thinking negative, but feel it is a good leap forward in at least catching myself so I can make adjustments along the way.

Again, don’t know what changed, but it is definitely for the good.  I was even talking to a client about this last week who was the one to bring it up. He said he was angry, mad at everything, traffic.. had road rage, etc., and one day it just stopped. He said he does not know what changed, but that life is much better and he is much happier.

So here is to being happy and trying to see the good in things, even if the aren’t and maybe, just maybe or thoughts change the way we perceive things.

Cryotherapy In Santa Clarita :: My First Santa Clarita Cryotherapy Session

I had seen a few friends post on Facebook about what they were calling, “cold therapy”. I did not pay much attention to it at first, but as more people were talking about “cryotherapy”, I decided to do a little research on it myself.

Turns out there are a ton of health benefits from cryotherapy. Several that would do me some good. There is a ton of information out there to research the benefits of cryotherapy so I am not going to repeat them here, nor am I a doctor, so I just wanted to share the benefits I have felt after just one treatment.

About a year ago I began having some pain in my left bicep. I went to the doctor and they said it was tendinitis from working out. A few weeks later I started having more pain in my shoulder which ran down my left arm and started having numbness to my left hand.

I went back to the doctor who then ordered an MRI. Short story is I had 2 pinched / herniated / bulged disks around my c-4, c-5 in my neck which was causing the nerve pain. In addition to the excruciating nerve pain ( if you never had nerve pain, there really isn’t anything like it) I began losing strength and muscle which began to atrophy from my shoulder to my left chest muscle and all the way down my arm. All in I lost about 75% of my strength and muscle.

I did all sorts of “natural healing” things I could do such as Chiropractic, acupuncture, cupping and later even deep tissue laser therapy. I did this because all the doctors wanted to do is prescribe pain killers and wanted to stick a needle in my neck to block the pain and later stick a knife in my neck and cut out the bulged / herniated disk. No thanks!

One of the benefits of cryotherapy is in reducing inflammation. Inflammation is one of the issues causing the nerve pain. So if cryotherapy can help reduce inflammation, I am willing to try it.

I can’t say that I felt immediate relief, but in researching cryotherapy, a person can have immediate relief of some symptoms and others that are more acute may take longer. So I am going to sign up and try cryotherapy for about a month and see what happens.

Benefits of first cryotherapy session

Sleep – I fell asleep faster than I normally do and had a more restful sleep. I usually wake several times during the night, but last night I didn’t. I did, however, wake up at 4 a.m. wide awake. Not a tired, want to sleep some more but can’t. Rather, I felt energized and ready for the day. I laid there for about 30 minutes before getting up, realizing I was not falling back to sleep.

Mood – Immediately following the cryotherapy I did feel better as far a my mood. Sort of a euphoric feeling or just a feeling of well being. We can all use more of that, right?

Energy – I do feel like I have more energy. Was up early this morning as I stated and got right to work. Feel like I have more energy for the day and actually feel like I can take on more or want to take on more and be more productive.

I honestly feel like going back today to get some more of this drug called cryotherapy, but I want to see how long the above effects last for. Some say the effects can last several days. I think I will shoot for 3 times a week for a month and see how things turn out.

The folks over at Mend Cryotherapy were great. I met one of the owners, Chris Browning, who I spoke with at lengths while there and learned about his business. We even talked about having him on my local podcast for a business interview on the SCV Local Podcast.

If you want to give cryotherapy in Santa Clarita a try, below is their contact info.

Mend Cryotherapy

28303 Newhall Ranch Rd

Valencia, CA 91355

844.321.MEND

Okay, this is just a quick post totally unrelated to Divorce but I just wanted to get this information out there. We have a motorhome and have had it for several years. We take care of the oil and all the fluids and make sure that all the maintenance is up to date.

But I have always had a hard time finding a place who will put air in the tires.  I am assuming if I had a difficult time finding a place to get air in my RV tires in Santa Clarita, so do others.

You can forget about Camping World as it takes almost a month just to get an appointment there.

When I would be the motorhome serviced at the lube places, they would say they don’t have an attachment long enough.

I tried calling a few mobile RV guys and even some of the highway mobile diesel mechanics. Not them either.

So I happened to be getting my daughters oil changed at Big O Tires in Valencia and asked them if they would be able to put air in the tires. They said, “No Problem” and to just pull it up when I was ready.

So the next day I bring my RV to Big O Tires in Valencia and they have me pull up and fill all the tires which were very low.

I asked how much it would be and they said putting air in tires was complimentary and stop by anytime.

I honestly was surprised.

So to get air in your tires for your RV, Motorhome or Trailer in Santa Clarita, I recommend Big O Tires.

Big O Tires Valencia

23510 Valencia Blvd,

Valencia, CA 91355

(661) 259-7498

For the weeks leading up to Thanksgiving, I was on Reserve America just about every hour in an attempt to book a late camping spot at the beach.

I booked 4 different camp spots at different beach locations, slowly finding places closer to home so we did not have to drive to far.

The first spot was at Silver Strand in Coronado, San Diego right on the beach. I was excited to go there because I had never been and we had a beach row spot which all the reviews said if you were not on beach row, don’t waste your time.

Then I found a spot at El Capitan. This is much closer, just an hour or so away, but the goal was to get Carpenteria. Just a few days prior to Thanksgiving, I found a spot at Carpenteria. It was not the best spot, and not right on the beach, but did have full hookups so it would be good enough.

The Tuesday prior to Thanksgiving, I picked up the motorhome and got gas and filled up the propane tanks. We had groceries in the fridge and the turkey fryer in the motorhome. We were all set to go Wednesday morning.

My daughter was home visiting from UCLA so all as good to go.

Then Wednesday morning came and my wife was not feeling well and had a fever. Our daughter wakes up and she too is not feeling well.

So we decide to wait a few hours to see if their condition improved and, well, it did not. So I made the decision that we should not go.

So we unloaded the motorhome and took it back to the place we store it.

I was sad because I worked hard to get this camping spot and we had decided that Thanksgiving Camping and Christmas camping was going to be our tradition. Well, we didn’t make it even one year…

Today is Monday and my wife is still ill. She spent 5 hours at urgent care on Sunday and finally got some antibiotics. So it was good we did not go. She was sick, and still is sick, and I am sure being out in the cold would not have made her feel any better.  My daughter also was sick all weekend, throwing up in the middle of the night on Saturday.

That said, we were all together and did not have to travel to family which was nice. We had our Thanksgiving Turkey which came out great in the turkey fryer.

So it is back to the grind today and time to get back to work. I am thankful to have been able to close down shop from Wednesday through Sunday to spend quality time with the family.

We also managed to not spend one dime on shopping. We are not the black Friday crazy people you see and in fact did not even go out except Sunday to go grab a quick bite at La Cocina or LACO as it is known apparently.

Hope you and yours had a nice Thanksgiving.

Are you familiar with the word Minimalism? I recently heard about this movement called Minimalism, I guess you could call it a new ideal of Minimalism. In my own words, it seems to mean to live without the need of “things” and to stick to the basic elements. Yet, this does not mean you have to live without. Rather, you have certain possessions that you enjoy or appreciate instead of amassing a bunch of stuff.

For the last few months I have had some attention and looked into such things as Minimalism, Small Houses and other things like this. I have even listened to a podcast called The RV Entrepreneur, which is a husband and wife who travel around the country and run their business entirely remotely and from their RV. They also interview other RV Entrepreneurs and discuss the different business’s that are run by people who want to be able to travel and have a non-location based business.

For some reason the tiny house, minimalism and RV Entrepreneur thing is interesting to me. I just can’t put my finger on what it is and why I am interested in it.

I have to admit that I did not do much “research”, rather came across the idea while listening to a podcast. I then looked into it a little bit more and found a documentary called, The Minimalist. There are two guys,  Joshua Fields Millburn & Ryan Nicodemus, who are considered THE Minimalists and can be found at their website at www.theminimalist.com.

If you are reading this, you may be asking yourself what does this have to do with divorce. The answers is “nothing”. I frequently write articles about myself, family and thoughts and this is one of those posts.

But getting back to the Minimalist thing. It really did make me think. Sure, at first I thought this was the typical hippie movement or nomad type lifestyle, and there is a certain element of that, but I started to think how this would or could or does affect the way I think.

And the way it made me think is that we don’t need all these things in life we collect or just hang onto. It made me think of the things I have held onto and why I still have them.

For instance, for me it was clothes. I asked myself why I have kept clothes that I have not worn in 5 years. Things like suites, shirts, etc., that have just sit in my closet for more than 5 years.

There are different ways to interpret how Minimalism and different ways to make change. For me it was as simple as deciding to get rid of some clothes.  After watching this documentary and talking about the points of the film, we went into our walk in closet and started getting rid of things.

For me it was easy. I have always been an A to B kind of guy. Once I make a decision, it is very hard to get me to change my mind. I went through my closet and very indiscriminately and without much thought, tossed out anything I had not worn in the last 30 days!

Yep, 30 days. I threw out suites, shirts, shoes, ties, you name it. I just tossed it on the floor. By the time I was done I had five, 40 gallon sized trash bags full of clothes. I dragged all 5 bags into the garage and into my car to take to drop off to donate.

My wife, while enthusiastic, and having 10 times the clothes that I have, ended up with 2 bags. Not bad!

The point is that this was our way of minimizing our things. We did not decide right there to sell everything, but we did make some changes. And I think it is these small changes in thought that is what this Minimalism thing is all about.

To be on honest, what I really drew from the Minimalism film is that these folks that went all in did not feel the need to amass things. They had very few things compared to the rest of the world, but the things they had were important, and usually high quality.

Instead of having thousands of things of low quality that they never used, they had only a few items of high quality that they enjoyed and took care of.  Clothing that fit them well and was of high quality or that they just liked enough to be part of their small wardrobe.

That is the thought process I took on when I went through my closet. If I didn’t wear it in the last 30 days, It obviously was not something I would need. In fact, since this experiment we will call it, I have not missed or needed anything I got rid of.

In fact, this exercise of getting rid of stuff was quite freeing. I don’t know why or how this is. It is just how I felt.

Since then I noticed I have a different thought process on “stuff”. I don’t feel like I need to buy “stuff” just for the sake of buying things.

But the most interesting thought change is what I do decide to buy. Because I know I am not buying stuff just to buy stuff and collect things and now purchase better, higher quality things that I know I will use.

An example of this is in a pair of Flip Flops I bought. Yep, good old sandals. You see, I usually just buy a pair of cheap sandals at the store and probably go through 5 or 6 pair a year. (I love wearing flip-flops). I never took much care of them and would leave them lying around the house. Most of the time my dog will get mad at me for not taking him on a walk and will take a flip flop and chew it up. This never mattered to me much because they were cheap and I could easily replace them.

But with my new thought process on things, I decided to purchase a pair of flip flops that I really liked. I had my eye on this company called, Combat Flip Flops. They make several products, but what i really liked was their flip flop called, AK-47. They are a flip-flop that, to me, are just super cool and were created by Veterans and have their product sourced in high conflict areas. This particular set of flip flops have AK-47 shell casings embedded into the sandal themselves.

These flip flops were not the most expensive, but I would not call them cheap. They were $50 bucks, when I would normally spend $1o or less on a pair of sandals.

The point is that I really liked them and having just received them and wearing them, want to make sure to take care of them.

I think this is idea behind Minimalism. To have things that matter, not just having things for the sake of having them.

I have also heard of the word Hyper Consumerism. I can’t remember if I heard it in this same film, a podcast or another documentary, but it refers to a culture which simply just keeps on buying stuff. I never really noticed it as it is certainly built into our culture, but now that I have heard of it I see it all around and I no longer want to be part of it.

My wife and I have always been a bit frugal and try to make good decisions and will often put things back when shopping after putting them in our cart, either because we don’t want to spend the money, realize we don’t need it or just don’t see the value in it. But we still do our fair share of consuming things.

My wife and I think much differently. I am not sure why I have grown an interest in this, but I have made some change. I honestly feel I could do with much, much less, but it seems that society has certain molds that we need to fit into.

As I get older I care less and less about what people think about me or what I do, but we still have kids in our house that do. But as they get older I see things changing for us.

I mentioned a podcast called The RV Entrepreneur. This is a young husband and wife traveling in an RV and working on their business while interviewing other full time RV Entrepreneur. It is quite interesting and I personally feel that this is something I could do.

Again, I don’t know what exactly is attracting me to this lifestyle, but I have to admit it is there. Over the last few weeks I have sort of brought it up with my wife in a nonchalant way. First, I said, ” oh I am listening to this podcast where this couple works from their RV and there are many people that are traveling the world and working, etc.”

She entertains me by listening, but I can tell she is not into it and comes up with the same and many times valid reasons why we can’t do it.

Over the last 20 years of our marriage, I have always been the dreamer and she has always been pragmatic.  Admittedly, this is frustrating, especially considering that she is right 99.9% of the time and but for her I would not be the success I am today and in the past. I tell her this all the time so this is no surprise to her.

I tell her that I could sell everything and live in our RV and run my divorce business from it. She travels for business and I figured we could travel to her work destinations as needed so we could always be together. While she appreciates this, she really likes to have a place called home.

For now I will just continue to be a minimalist in the way that makes sense to me. That will be not buying things unless they truly add value and not to purchase things for the sake of having them. As for my nomad aspirations and running my divorce business from the road in an RV, that will have to wait.