Is Divorce Mediation For Wimps?

Is Divorce Mediation For Wimps?

Tim: Okay, the next myth. I like this one. I wasn’t sure if I was going to use this one but I thought it would bring a good topic.

So this myth is mediation is for wimps. So the question here is Divorce Mediation for wimps?

And the one reason I want to bring this up is because I think this is a guy thing. It’s obvious it’s not a girl thing or a woman thing.

There are guys, ‘I’m not going to do that.’

Lisa: Right.

Tim: ‘I’m the man.’ What do you think about that?

Lisa: You know and I think that ties into our last question, our last myth about you know…

Tim: The hassle or to deal with it.

Lisa: …the hassle, the investment, the emotional part of it. It is definitely not for wimps.

You have to be pretty strong and invested and determined.

Tim: It’s true!

Lisa: …to make this relationship work.

Tim: It’s actually the opposite.

Lisa: It’s the opposite.

Tim: It’s the exact opposite of that.

Lisa: I think you’re weak if you’re just going to let somebody else take control of your life. And tell you what you’re going to do with your life.

Tim: Yes.

Lisa: So I think if you have it in you, you have to have a lot of strength and a lot of willingness to commit to the process.

Tim: Right.

Lisa: …to be able to work it out to where it’s worth it for everybody involved in the end. So I think it’s not for wimps.

It’s for somebody who wants to make sure that everybody comes out fairly pole at the end of the process.

Tim: It’s definitely harder to sit down but in the time and effort to sit down especially with someone who you’re disengaging from.

Lisa: Right.

Tim: And come up with the decisions and work through with those issues. It’s not easy.

Lisa: No. It’s not easy. And it will take control and you will have emotions coming up that you don’t want to talk about.

Tim: Right.

Lisa: But again I want to reiterate this is not therapy session. And a lot of men tend to shy away from that.

Their wives said, ‘We should go in couple therapy.’ and they’re like—

This is just a communication process, a place where you can make decisions about your life, about your marriage, about your kids, about your money without somebody hanging over your shoulder telling you yes or no.

This is your time to make those decisions.

Tim: Very good, not for wimps.

Lisa: No!