How to Handle Divorce When a Spouse Is Missing in California

Yes. You can still get divorced if your spouse cannot be located

If you are ready to file for divorce but do not know where your spouse is, or you have not been in contact for years, you can still start and finalize a California divorce. The process begins the same way as any divorce: you file the petition and attempt to serve the other spouse. When personal service is not possible, California law provides alternative methods so your case can move forward.

“Can I still get divorced in California? The answer is yes.”

Step-by-step: How the process works when the other spouse is missing

1. File the divorce paperworkStart by filing the petition and summons with the appropriate family court. This starts the case even if the other spouse has not yet been served.
2. Attempt serviceMake reasonable, documented efforts to serve the respondent. Use process servers, certified mail, and any known contact information. Courts expect you to show due diligence before allowing alternative service.
3. If you cannot locate them, ask the court for service by publicationWhen real-world service is impossible despite reasonable efforts, you can file a request with the court to serve by publication. If the judge approves, you publish a legal notice in a newspaper of general circulation where the spouse is likely to be found.
4. Publish the noticeThe notice runs according to the court-approved schedule. Publication is a substitute for personal service when the respondent cannot be located.
5. Wait the required period, then move for default if there is no responseAfter the publication period and any required waiting period expires, if the missing spouse still does not respond, you can ask the court to enter a default and proceed to finalize the divorce.

What is service by publication?

Service by publication is a court-ordered alternative to personal delivery of court papers. Instead of handing documents directly to the respondent, the court permits you to publish a notice in a newspaper. The court grants this only after you prove you made reasonable and thorough efforts to locate the missing spouse.

How to document your search: what courts expect

Documentation is critical. The court will want an affidavit or declaration showing your efforts to find the other spouse. Examples of reasonable steps include:

• Hiring a process server and including their unsuccessful attempt declarations
• Using certified mail to last known addresses and keeping returned mail receipts
• Contacting known family members, friends, or employers
• Searching social media profiles and online directories
• Checking public records, property records, and DMV records when available
• Using skip-tracing services or private investigators if appropriate
• Documenting phone calls, emails, texts, and any leads you followed

Put everything in writing. The more detailed and organized your proof of diligence, the better your chance of court approval for publication.

What happens after publication: default and finalization

Once the court approves publication and the notice runs, the missing spouse technically has the opportunity to respond. If they do not, you can request that the court enter a default. After default, you can finalize the divorce, address property division, support, and other issues either by default judgment or by presenting the court with the proposed orders required to close the case.

Every court has procedures and required forms, so following the court-ordered steps precisely is important to avoid delays. If the case involves complex assets or custody issues, additional court requirements may apply.

Real client example

We recently helped a client who had not seen or heard from their spouse in more than ten years. After documenting multiple attempts to locate the missing spouse, we filed the required request with the court to serve by publication. The judge approved publication, the notice ran, and the case proceeded by default. The divorce was finalized without the spouse ever responding. Careful documentation and correct filings made that outcome possible.

Practical tips and warnings

• Do not skip the documentation step. Courts take the “reasonable efforts” requirement seriously.
• Keep copies of every attempted contact and every search effort in one folder for your court filings.
• Local newspapers matter. Publication typically must be in a newspaper of general circulation in the area where the missing spouse might be found.
• If you anticipate disputes over property, support, or custody, consider seeking legal guidance early so you can protect your interests.

How professional help can make the process easier

Navigating service by publication, filings, and default procedures can be confusing and time consuming. Working with professionals who understand the local court rules helps ensure your search documentation is sufficient, the right motions and declarations are filed, and your case moves forward as smoothly as possible.

If you need help documenting your search, preparing the necessary motions, or filing for default after publication, take the next step and get a consultation. We offer flat-fee divorce services and remote support across California to guide you through this process from start to finish. Visit divorce661.com to schedule a free consultation and learn how to proceed even if your spouse cannot be found.