How to Handle Spousal Support in a San Diego County Divorce

In this post I’ll walk you through how spousal support (alimony) works in a San Diego County divorce — what determines whether it’s awarded, how long it lasts, and how to build a fair agreement. I’m Tim Blankenship with Divorce661, and I’ll use plain language and a real client example to show you what to expect and what options you have.

Why spousal support isn’t automatic

Spousal support isn’t automatic in a divorce.

People often assume one spouse will always pay the other after a divorce. That’s not the case. Spousal support is intended to help a lower-earning spouse maintain a lifestyle reasonably close to the one enjoyed during the marriage, but courts (and couples) only order support when the financial circumstances make it necessary and appropriate.

Key factors that influence spousal support

Several things play into whether support will be awarded and how much or how long it will last. The most important include:

• Length of the marriage. Short marriages commonly result in brief support orders (sometimes only months). Long marriages can lead to multi-year payments or, in rare cases, indefinite support depending on need and circumstances.
• Each spouse’s income and earning capacity. Current earnings, potential for future earnings, and whether a spouse needs retraining or time to become self-supporting all matter.
• Financial needs and expenses. Courts look at each party’s reasonable needs and ability to pay.
• Contributions to the marriage. This includes homemaking, supporting the other spouse’s career or education, and contributions to community property.
• Age and health. Physical or mental health issues that affect employment are considered.
• Standard of living during the marriage. The goal is often to approximate that standard where reasonably possible.
• Custody and childcare responsibilities. Who will care for children and any impact on the custodial parent’s ability to work.

In California, long-term spousal support determinations are guided by California Family Code section 4320, which lists specific factors courts evaluate to reach a fair result.

Temporary support vs. long-term support

There are two common phases of spousal support:

• Temporary (pendente lite) support: This is support paid while the divorce case is pending. Many counties use standardized software — commonly referred to as DissoMaster — to calculate guideline temporary support amounts. DissoMaster produces a formula-based number based on income, deductions, and custody arrangements to keep things predictable and efficient during the case.
• Long-term or permanent support: For post-judgment support or support intended to continue after the divorce is final, judges consider the broader set of factors in Family Code 4320. This analysis is less formulaic and more discretionary to fit the specific facts of the marriage and each spouse’s situation.

Real-life San Diego example

Here’s a quick example from our practice: a San Diego couple came to us worried about spousal support. After reviewing their financial disclosures we found both partners had nearly identical incomes and similar financial needs. In that situation, spousal support wasn’t necessary — both parties waived it, and the court approved the agreement. That’s a common outcome when incomes and expenses are comparable.

How to determine if spousal support is necessary

To figure out whether support should be sought or offered, take these steps:

1. Gather financial disclosures: incomes, pay stubs, tax returns, bank and retirement account statements, and monthly expenses.
2. Compare incomes and reasonable monthly needs for each spouse.
3. Consider the length of the marriage and any gaps in employment or education that affect earning ability.
4. Run a temporary support calculation (DissoMaster) to set expectations for pendente lite support.
5. Discuss long-term scenarios using the Family Code 4320 factors to see whether ongoing support is likely or necessary.

Structuring a fair, amicable support agreement

If support is appropriate, a clear agreement should address:

• Whether the support is temporary or long-term.
• The exact payment amount and payment schedule.
• Start and end dates, or events that trigger termination (e.g., remarriage, cohabitation).
• A clause allowing modification if circumstances materially change (job loss, serious illness, substantial change in income).
• Tax implications and responsibility for health insurance or other shared costs.

A thoughtfully drafted agreement reduces conflict, speeds up court approval, and gives both parties peace of mind.

Modifying spousal support

Support orders can usually be changed if there’s a significant change in circumstances. Common reasons to request modification include job loss, reduced income, new employment, remarriage, or a change in custody that affects living expenses. When you draft an agreement, be sure to include modification language so both parties know how changes will be addressed.

Next steps and how we can help

If you’re worried about paying or receiving spousal support in a San Diego County divorce, start by collecting your financial documents and getting a clear calculation of incomes and needs. If you want help, Divorce661 offers remote, flat-fee services to calculate, explain, and draft spousal support terms, including modification provisions.

To get a free consultation and learn your options, visit: divorce661.com. We provide a full-service solution for amicable, uncontested divorces in California — helping you move forward with clarity and confidence.

Conclusion

Spousal support is not automatic. Its necessity, amount, and duration depend on objective financial facts, the length of the marriage, and the Family Code 4320 factors for long-term support. Temporary support is often calculated with DissoMaster, while long-term orders require a broader review. With clear financial disclosure and a well-drafted agreement, many couples resolve support issues amicably — sometimes even waiving support when incomes are equal.

If you want practical help sorting through spousal support in your San Diego divorce, reach out for a free consultation at divorce661.com.