Valencia Divorce : Telling Your Spouse You Want A Divorce

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Over the several years I have been helping people get through the divorce process I can tell you that one of the things you will have to do is break the news to your spouse that you want a divorce.

Now with many of our clients, when I ask them if they have told their spouse they want a divorce, they will say that they have or at least they know it will not come as a surprise. For some, however, they have not told their spouse they want a divorce, even though the writing has been on the wall for years.

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There is no easy way to tell your spouse you want a divorce. For those who have already discussed it, it usually comes about as they are having an argument on too many occasions and someone says maybe we should just get a divorce.

If you are thinking about getting divorced, I think in most cases and is the experience of our clients, that the other spouse should be at least somewhat aware that you want to get a divorce or that things are bad enough that you don’t want to be married anymore.

I say this with a grain of salt thought, because I know that having done this for so long that the majority of people filing for divorce are woman and many of the men say they had no idea that things were so bad that their wife wanted a divorce.

I hear often from women that things were just in a rut and the men just went along with their daily routine as if everything was fine while the wife wanted things to change. One day I will figure out what this is all about.

If you have not told your spouse you want to get a divorce I would say that there is probably no right time, but that sooner is probably better than later. You don’t want to get to a point where you despise the them because you held off from telling them for so long.

My clients have told me that when they finally got to telling their spouse they wanted a divorce that after the encounter they felt a sense of relief and calm as the anxiety from holding this back was a source of great stress.

Why You Should Compromise During Your Valencia Divorce

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The best thing you can do while going through a divorce in Valencia is to take the high road whenever you can. When you are going through an amicable divorce you are going to want to give more than you take to ensure the divorce process goes smooth.

(By the way, we provide a full service divorce solution throughout California. If you are looking to get a divorce and would like assistance, please give us a call for a free phone consultation at 661-281-0266. We have a full service and self-help service.)

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This goes for both parties. Both of you need to give more than you take. By doing so this will create an environment where it seems you are both willing to bend a bit on what you want out of the divorce.

I am always telling my clients that the alternative to not being flexible or not wanting to compromise is to hire attorneys and spend a ton of money on that.

Here is an example of spending money you shouldn’t. Let’s say that you guys are stuck over some piece of property or asset worth $5,000. Let’s say that each of you want to keep it and neither one of you are willing to compromise at all. The alternative is to hire an attorney so you can fight over the issue of who it belongs to.

So you hire a an attorney and lets say they charge you the going rate of $5,000 retainer. And then your spouse hires and attorney at a $5,000 retainer. How much sense does it make to spend the same amount of money you are going to give to an attorney to fight over this asset. I have seen it done and it make no sense.

It is probably going to feel like you are compromising way more than you want to when going through a divorce. Just know that it feels exactly the same way to your spouse. Each of you are going to feel like you are compromising more than you want if you expect to go through a friendly type diovrce.

Problems With Listing Pension Wrong On Divorce Judgment : Valencia Divorce

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Listing your pension information wrong or listing how the pension is going to be divided wrong during your divorce or on your divorce papers can cause many problems down the road.

There are lot of people out there that try to do their own Valencia divorce. The problem is that you don’t know what you don’t know. What I mean to say is that you don’t know you are doing things wrong until it becomes a problem.

The good news is that it can be fixed. We can fix issues with your pension being listed wrong on your California divorce judgment. It is called a Stipulation & Order and we can prepare and file a Stipulation and Order to correct a previously filed judgment in your divorce case.

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In this video we discuss the issues with listing your pension in your judgment and doing it wrong and the problems this can cause down the road.

 

What we recommend, of course, is not to do your own divorce in the first place and to hire a professional company so that your Valencia divorce is done correctly the first time.

We offer a full service and do it yourself divorce process. We figure that there is just that percentage of the population that wants to file their own divorce, usually to save money. Which you can, it just comes at the expense of your time.

So we created a do-it-yourself divorce process as well as our full service divorce.

Divorce661 provides a full service divorce and do-it-yourself service.

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And please call us for a free consultation to discuss how we can help you with your divorce anywhere in California.

Don’t Use Marital Settlement Agreement From Internet For Your Santa Clarita Divorce

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I want to talk to you about why you should not use a Marital Settlement Agreement that you can find on the internet. First of all, the marital settlement agreements off the internet cannot be vetted. Meaning, you have no idea who put that marital settlement agreement on the internet.

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The second problem is that these marital settlement agreements you find online are not legitimate and do not meet the criteria for being an actual marital settlement agreement. This is because they don’t have the necessary legal language that a properly prepared marital settlement agreement should have to comply with the rules and legalese necessary for a California divorce marital settlement agreement.

 

In addition to the online marital settlement agreements you can find not having the necessary wording, they also are just not necessary. Most people do not need to have a long, drawn out marital settlement agreement.

All that is necessary is to use the court’s judgment forms for your divorce instead of the marital settlement agreement. The California divorce judgment forms have all the necessary language needed to comply with the rules. If there are ever changes to the language the courts require then they will update the forms. So you never have to worry about not having the correct language.

We provide a full service divorce solution anywhere in California. Please contact us for a free consultation to discuss how we can assist you with handling your divorce case for you. We only specialize in divorce and have helped thousands of clients over the years.

Request For Order Time Frames For Serving : Valencia Divorce

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Filing and serving Request For Orders or RFO’s can be confusing.  I have discussed in the past, but since I have just finished up another Request For Order for a client, I thought it was a good time to go over the timeframes for serving them again.

We provide 2 options for preparing your Request For Order:

1. Full Service – We will draft, file and serve your Request For Order

2. Do-it-yourself – We have a online video tutorial with all form and example declarations

The most important thing you have to remember about serving timeframes of Request For Orders is that everything is hinged off of the court date you were given by the court.

I explain the timeframes in this video

 

There are 2 sets of timeframes you can use, whether you are serving it by mail or serving it by personal service. Please note that we are not discussing when you have to serve by personal service or by mail in this article, but to be safe, serve by personal service when in doubt.

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Here is the way you figure out the date you have to serve your Request For Order.

Let’s say the court date is on June 30th. Everything will be working backwards of that date, so it will look like this.

17 Court days to serve the Request For Order by personal service
Plus 5 Calendar days if you are serving by mail. Again, there are restrictions on serving by mail so make sure you can serve by mail in your case.

So you will take June 30th and count backwards 17 court days. This means you need to skip over the weekends and any court holidays and make sure you don’t count them. The day you land on, will be the last day to personally serve your Request For Order. If we are using a 2016 calendar, the last day to serve the Request For Order would be June 7th. Again, make sure to check for holidays and to skip the weekends.

Keep in mind that you don’t have to wait until the last minute to serve your Request For Order, you can serve the Request For Order as soon as you have it filed and have a court date. Some people wait until the last minute to serve the Request For Order to be mean and give a shorter period of time for the other party to Respond, but that is up to you.

Make sure that once you serve the Request For Order that you file the proof of service with the court.

At Divorce661, we provide a full service Request For Order solution. We will handle the preparation of the motion, write the declaration, file and get your court date and mediation date as well as have it served on the other party and file the proof of service.

And don’t forget, we  have a do-it-yourself product where we have a video tutorial of how to properly prepare a Request For Order to obtain the best results possible.

Also, if you are looking for help with your divorce, we can help you with your full service approach or you can use our online do-it-yourself divorce service as well.

The Value We Provide With Our Divorce Service Is Invaluable

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When I started this business it was to provide affordable divorce services that focused on providing great customer service and value.  We provide so much value for the dollar spent that I personally feel you are a fool to go anyplace else but to our company for assistance with your divorce.  No, I am not calling you stupid!

I simply feel that with our years of experience in the business and completing 30+ divorce cases every month, to having worked for the Los Angeles Superior Court’s divorce court’s that you will not find a more experienced company to assist you.

However, there are those people who don’t understand the value that given until it is too late.  What I am referring to is other people out there saying they provide the same service as us when they really don’t.  They are unlicensed and offering services they are not allowed to perform.  Not to mention they don’t know what they are doing and are a bad example of our industry.

I didn’t mean to start down this negative rant, but this is just how serious I take my business.  There are other companies out there. Sure.  They might even be a little less money, or at least it appears at first.  Until you start working with them and realize that you really get what you pay for.

We provide so much value for the money spent it is ridiculous.  You get attorney quality assistance with your divorce for a fraction of the cost of hiring an attorney.  We have handled just about every type of divorce situation there is and because I have worked for the courts, the self help centers and for attorney’s I know the process and procedure frontward and backwards.

When you hire our company to complete your divorce, you are not just getting divorce document preparation. You are getting our years of experience in the courts, helping now thousands of folks with their divorce.  Sure, some divorce cases are easier than others, but some are as difficult as they come. And we can handle all of them.

Point of the story is this.  There is a lot on the line when getting your divorce completed.  Yes, you may be in agreement which is great. But there are so many things that can still go wrong especially related to how you handle the division of your assets and debts and what you are doing with spousal support.

You are not familiar with the divorce process and the in’s and out’s of it.

When it comes to divorce, ignorance is not bliss.  It’s dangerous.

 

 

Valencia Divorce : Divorce Judgment Checklists

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When going through a Valencia divorce, one of the most helpful things we provide you is a divorce judgment checklist. With our full service Valencia divorce process, we utilize these divorce judgment checklists. Now, on California Divorce Tutor, where we show you step by step how to complete your Valencia divorce ( or anywhere in California) we provide you with the divorce judgment checklists that show you exactly what forms you need to complete depending on the type of divorce you are processing.

Watch the video below to learn more about the divorce judgment checklists and California Divorce Tutor.

 

We provide both a full service and online self help divorce service throughout California.

Santa Clarita Divorce – FL-105 Form Completion – California Divorce Tutor

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This is a post to introduce you to California Divorce Tutor which is our online self help version of our California divorce service. We show you exactly what you get when you join California Divorce Tutor and how we help you complete your California divorce step by step.

This video shows you how we help you prepare the California divorce form FL-105 which is a divorce form you will need if you have minor children. The courts want to know where your children have lived for the last 5 years and with whom. They essentially want to make sure that they (the courts) have the jurisdiction over the children in order to make custody and visitation orders.

 

Santa Clarita Divorce FL-110 Form Completion – California Divorce Tutor

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This is an introduction to California Divorce Tutor to show you how the online California divorce service works. This is s tutorial to show you a behind the scenes on how to complete California Divorce form FL-110 which is the summons.

The California divorce form FL-110 is a fairly simple form to complete and there is not a whole lot of information to complete, but there is some important information regarding the ATRO’s also known as Automatic Temporary Restraining Orders.

 

We Can Get Your Santa Clarita Divorce Case Completed FAST!

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How long does the divorce process take?  When it comes to answering that question with regards to our office, we can get your divorce case completed in a single sitting and as fast as you can get the information to us.

But keep in mind that we are still constrained by the courts rules and timeframes. So even if we complete your entire divorce case in a single day or single meeting, we still need to process your paperwork with the divorce court per their timetables.

I explain more in this video and podcast.