Valencia Divorce : No Fault Divorce Means It Does Not Matter The Reason

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It is a well known fact that in California, it does not matter who the wrong-doer is, if there is one, and the court’s do not care who did what or what the cause of the divorce is. I know that it is insensitive to say that, but nobody cares why you are getting divorce.

It is not that nobody cares, in that sense, but that it makes no difference with the outcome of your divorce who did what and does not matter who files for divorce.

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There are some clients of ours that despite the fact that it does not matter who did what to cause the divorce, that people still feel principled in who files for divorce.

First, let me say that it does not matter who files for divorce first. It does not matter. I don’t care what a divorce attorney told you. If a divorce attorney is telling you that you should be the first to file for divorce, you can bet that they are trying to find a way to make you retain them by putting pressure on you to file. (okay, got that out of my system)

So it does not matter who files for divorce. But (getting back to my point) some people feel that if the other spouse did something wrong, that they want to be the one to file the divorce case. As if they are filing against them because they were in the right and the other person did them wrong.

I hope I am explaining that right. Let me try to be clear here. Even if you feel that you are the one that your spouse wronged, you may feel that you need to be the one to file for divorce first because you were wronged, but it does not matter. Despite this being the case, there are those that want the feeling of “I was the one that filed for divorce” and not my spouse.

While this is fine, and again, does not make any difference, hopefully you will be able to put this emotion behind shortly thereafter so that you and your spouse can get through the divorce process amicable and without having to hire attorneys for your divorce just because you are emotional and mad at your spouse.

Valencia Non-Attorney Divorces Exceed Those With Attorneys

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Did you know that more that 60% of all divorce cases are completed without either party having an attorney for their divorce? It seems with all the stories we hear from our friends and our co-workers who all got screwed over by their attorney or spouse, we forget about all the people who decide not to go the route of hiring attorneys and find a more amicable way of doing things.

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The legal system is called the adversarial system for a reason. Attorneys being involved with your divorce immediately puts you at odds with your spouse. This is because of the very nature of an attorney by their oath having to do everything in your best interest and fight for your rights, while your spouse’s attorney is doing the exact same thing.

This is the exact opposite of compromising during your divorce which i discussed in the last article.

Look, there is a time for an attorney when going through a divorce. This is when one spouse is not honest, is hiding assets, closing accounts and doing things to the other party that are unethical or meant to hurt the other party. Unfortunately, you will need an attorney to fight for your rights in these circumstances.

But we are not talking about these types of divorce cases. We are talking about the more than 60% of divorce cases where people do not use an attorney and I will bet that many of the people that used and attorney actually did not need one in the first place, which would put the percentage of people who actually needed a divorce attorney even lower.

There are much better options than using an attorney for your divorce. Our clients go through our office and don’t need attorneys and don’t need to go to court. Please call us for a free consultation to see if we would be a good choice for helping you and your family through the divorce process in California.

Valencia Divorce : Telling Your Spouse You Want A Divorce

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Over the several years I have been helping people get through the divorce process I can tell you that one of the things you will have to do is break the news to your spouse that you want a divorce.

Now with many of our clients, when I ask them if they have told their spouse they want a divorce, they will say that they have or at least they know it will not come as a surprise. For some, however, they have not told their spouse they want a divorce, even though the writing has been on the wall for years.

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There is no easy way to tell your spouse you want a divorce. For those who have already discussed it, it usually comes about as they are having an argument on too many occasions and someone says maybe we should just get a divorce.

If you are thinking about getting divorced, I think in most cases and is the experience of our clients, that the other spouse should be at least somewhat aware that you want to get a divorce or that things are bad enough that you don’t want to be married anymore.

I say this with a grain of salt thought, because I know that having done this for so long that the majority of people filing for divorce are woman and many of the men say they had no idea that things were so bad that their wife wanted a divorce.

I hear often from women that things were just in a rut and the men just went along with their daily routine as if everything was fine while the wife wanted things to change. One day I will figure out what this is all about.

If you have not told your spouse you want to get a divorce I would say that there is probably no right time, but that sooner is probably better than later. You don’t want to get to a point where you despise the them because you held off from telling them for so long.

My clients have told me that when they finally got to telling their spouse they wanted a divorce that after the encounter they felt a sense of relief and calm as the anxiety from holding this back was a source of great stress.

Why You Should Compromise During Your Valencia Divorce

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The best thing you can do while going through a divorce in Valencia is to take the high road whenever you can. When you are going through an amicable divorce you are going to want to give more than you take to ensure the divorce process goes smooth.

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This goes for both parties. Both of you need to give more than you take. By doing so this will create an environment where it seems you are both willing to bend a bit on what you want out of the divorce.

I am always telling my clients that the alternative to not being flexible or not wanting to compromise is to hire attorneys and spend a ton of money on that.

Here is an example of spending money you shouldn’t. Let’s say that you guys are stuck over some piece of property or asset worth $5,000. Let’s say that each of you want to keep it and neither one of you are willing to compromise at all. The alternative is to hire an attorney so you can fight over the issue of who it belongs to.

So you hire a an attorney and lets say they charge you the going rate of $5,000 retainer. And then your spouse hires and attorney at a $5,000 retainer. How much sense does it make to spend the same amount of money you are going to give to an attorney to fight over this asset. I have seen it done and it make no sense.

It is probably going to feel like you are compromising way more than you want to when going through a divorce. Just know that it feels exactly the same way to your spouse. Each of you are going to feel like you are compromising more than you want if you expect to go through a friendly type diovrce.

Problems With Listing Pension Wrong On Divorce Judgment : Valencia Divorce

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Listing your pension information wrong or listing how the pension is going to be divided wrong during your divorce or on your divorce papers can cause many problems down the road.

There are lot of people out there that try to do their own Valencia divorce. The problem is that you don’t know what you don’t know. What I mean to say is that you don’t know you are doing things wrong until it becomes a problem.

The good news is that it can be fixed. We can fix issues with your pension being listed wrong on your California divorce judgment. It is called a Stipulation & Order and we can prepare and file a Stipulation and Order to correct a previously filed judgment in your divorce case.

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In this video we discuss the issues with listing your pension in your judgment and doing it wrong and the problems this can cause down the road.

 

What we recommend, of course, is not to do your own divorce in the first place and to hire a professional company so that your Valencia divorce is done correctly the first time.

We offer a full service and do it yourself divorce process. We figure that there is just that percentage of the population that wants to file their own divorce, usually to save money. Which you can, it just comes at the expense of your time.

So we created a do-it-yourself divorce process as well as our full service divorce.

Divorce661 provides a full service divorce and do-it-yourself service.

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And please call us for a free consultation to discuss how we can help you with your divorce anywhere in California.

Don’t Use Marital Settlement Agreement From Internet For Your Santa Clarita Divorce

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I want to talk to you about why you should not use a Marital Settlement Agreement that you can find on the internet. First of all, the marital settlement agreements off the internet cannot be vetted. Meaning, you have no idea who put that marital settlement agreement on the internet.

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The second problem is that these marital settlement agreements you find online are not legitimate and do not meet the criteria for being an actual marital settlement agreement. This is because they don’t have the necessary legal language that a properly prepared marital settlement agreement should have to comply with the rules and legalese necessary for a California divorce marital settlement agreement.

 

In addition to the online marital settlement agreements you can find not having the necessary wording, they also are just not necessary. Most people do not need to have a long, drawn out marital settlement agreement.

All that is necessary is to use the court’s judgment forms for your divorce instead of the marital settlement agreement. The California divorce judgment forms have all the necessary language needed to comply with the rules. If there are ever changes to the language the courts require then they will update the forms. So you never have to worry about not having the correct language.

We provide a full service divorce solution anywhere in California. Please contact us for a free consultation to discuss how we can assist you with handling your divorce case for you. We only specialize in divorce and have helped thousands of clients over the years.

Request For Order Time Frames For Serving : Valencia Divorce

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Filing and serving Request For Orders or RFO’s can be confusing.  I have discussed in the past, but since I have just finished up another Request For Order for a client, I thought it was a good time to go over the timeframes for serving them again.

We provide 2 options for preparing your Request For Order:

1. Full Service – We will draft, file and serve your Request For Order

2. Do-it-yourself – We have a online video tutorial with all form and example declarations

The most important thing you have to remember about serving timeframes of Request For Orders is that everything is hinged off of the court date you were given by the court.

I explain the timeframes in this video

 

There are 2 sets of timeframes you can use, whether you are serving it by mail or serving it by personal service. Please note that we are not discussing when you have to serve by personal service or by mail in this article, but to be safe, serve by personal service when in doubt.

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Here is the way you figure out the date you have to serve your Request For Order.

Let’s say the court date is on June 30th. Everything will be working backwards of that date, so it will look like this.

17 Court days to serve the Request For Order by personal service
Plus 5 Calendar days if you are serving by mail. Again, there are restrictions on serving by mail so make sure you can serve by mail in your case.

So you will take June 30th and count backwards 17 court days. This means you need to skip over the weekends and any court holidays and make sure you don’t count them. The day you land on, will be the last day to personally serve your Request For Order. If we are using a 2016 calendar, the last day to serve the Request For Order would be June 7th. Again, make sure to check for holidays and to skip the weekends.

Keep in mind that you don’t have to wait until the last minute to serve your Request For Order, you can serve the Request For Order as soon as you have it filed and have a court date. Some people wait until the last minute to serve the Request For Order to be mean and give a shorter period of time for the other party to Respond, but that is up to you.

Make sure that once you serve the Request For Order that you file the proof of service with the court.

At Divorce661, we provide a full service Request For Order solution. We will handle the preparation of the motion, write the declaration, file and get your court date and mediation date as well as have it served on the other party and file the proof of service.

And don’t forget, we  have a do-it-yourself product where we have a video tutorial of how to properly prepare a Request For Order to obtain the best results possible.

Also, if you are looking for help with your divorce, we can help you with your full service approach or you can use our online do-it-yourself divorce service as well.

Recommitting To Providing Valuable Content & Marketing Efforts

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Today I took a few hours to myself.  With all the hustle of owning a business one can get caught up in the day to day of business and life and forget to take a step back and a moment to see what is going on.

Today was that day.  I did not plan for it, however it just turned out that way.  I woke up, realized I had no clients physically coming into the office (at least to see me) and decided to take some time to check in with me.

I started the day walking my dog for an hour along a beautiful path behind my house in North Park.  You would think taking a day for “me” would mean being with myself and not working or focusing on business, but it guess it is just in my DNA at this point.

I am referring to the fact that while I was walking, I decided to record a video.  I was listening to a podcast and recalling a conversation I had with someone in the “divorce space” who said they had watched a video of me where I was recording in my vehicle.  He said that the thought I must not be doing well, business wise, if i have been reduced to having to record while in my car as opposed to in my office.

So I recorded a short 2 minute video on my walk, on my phone to tell people about this thought process someone had about my business.

And when I explained to this person that I had intentionally recorded these videos in my car, he was a little surprised.  I told him that I was not making videos in my car because I didn’t have an office, rather I intentionally recorded these in my care for several reasons.

The first reason is to make good use of my time.  I find myself frequently in line at Starbucks or other places and have a few minutes of staring at the car in front of me.  I take those moments to record my videos or podcasts.  Sorry, I am just efficient in that way.

Second, I want to give my viewers a little bit of change of scenery when they are watching my videos. At this point I have recorded over 800 videos.  Mostly these videos are from my office.  I had a trusted friend tell me one day that he thought it would be good to see me shooting videos in different locations and situations.  The car just became one of those.

So I going back to my walk, I decided to make a video on just this. Explaining to anyone else that may have though I was shooting video in my car because I was office-less, to ensure them that this was for their enjoyment and to just mix things up a bit.

Here is the link to the video on our Facebook page

In any event, this day of being with “me” helped me to realize that I needed to recommit to providing more videos and content. Now, you may be saying, “Tim, you do a video nearly every day and have over 800 videos”. Yes, that is true, but I have really been holding back. Meaning I have enough to say to provide 5 videos a day. I used to do that, but I find myself getting busy with doing the job that sometimes that takes away from promoting my business and providing helpful information online.

The other thing I am doing today is reading.  I wish I had more time to read.  I am not a casual reader, however.  I am usually reading business books on marketing and how to grow a business. Today, I received in the mail (yes, I like to feel paper still) my new book, #AskGaryVee.  Yes, that is the name of it.  You either know who this is or don’t, but I am not going to spend the time explaining other to say it is someone you should be listening to if you own a business and are in a space where your life is about marketing.

It is books like these that reaffirm what I am doing and what I need to be doing.  What I have done in the past to have a successful business and what I need to do forging ahead.

So what can you expect? Much more “hustle” and getting the word out about my business and providing valuable free information about divorce and the business I am in.

Talk to you later.

Santa Clarita Business Podcast : A New Venture w/ SCV Local

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I have been very fortunate to have started a divorce company in Valencia from the ground up.  Literally started on a shoe-string budget out of my loft years ago.  I wasn’t fortunate because of dump luck, rather out of sheer determination to learn how to market my business properly.

But it was difficult.  I had to learn how to build a website, blog, podcast, create videos and learn everything about marketing so I could grow my business.

These are difficulties most new business’s will face.

But why does it seem we, as business owners, are all alone in trying to figure out how to have a successful business?  I know I felt that way.

So to try to help out local business’s in Santa Clarita I decided to start a little project.  Well, it started off as a little project, I just didn’t realize how much time it would take.  It is like running a whole new business.

Anyways, the idea was to create the first Santa Clarita Business Podcast dedicated to interviews of local Santa Clarita businesses.  The idea was to give them exposure in an entirely different way.

Introducing SCV Local.  Santa Clarita’s first local business podcast.

Here you will find interviews of locally owned and operated Santa Clarita business’s and the interviews will be hosted not only on the website, but through it’s own podcast on iTunes.  These will be long form podcast interviews that will go beyond just talking about the business, but will talk about the person behind the business.

I personally think it will be very interesting to learn about our local business owners.

Make sure to check it out if you get a chance. There will be new interviews done every day.

My Valencia Divorce Judgment Rejected 3 Times

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I hear it every day.  I tried to do my own Valencia divorce and my Valencia divorce judgment was rejected. In this case, this gal’s Valencia divorce judgment was rejected 3 times.

Why Your Valencia Divorce Judgment Is Being Rejected

This is not the most times someone has told me their . Nope, the most times someone said their Valencia divorce judgment was rejected was 7 times.  Can you imagine having your Valencia divorce judgment rejected 7 times?  Even if you have had your Valencia divorce judgment rejected once, it is enough to frustrate you completely.  You think you have completed your Valencia divorce properly and then one day, you receive the rejected Valencia divorce judgment in the mail.

Valencia Divorce Judgments Get Rejected All The Time

Valencia divorce judgments get rejected all the time.  In fact, so much that we have a service just for cleaning up the judgement and resubmitting.  But we have talked about that in many articles and if you find yourself in a situation where your Valencia divorce judgment has been rejected.

But the purpose of this article was not so much to talk about our service is it is to discuss a situation I ran into today.

So today, I received a message on Facebook from someone I knew several years ago.  Someone that worked in an office near me.  So not friends, per se, but an acquaintance would be the best way to explain it.

Anyways, I ran into her in the Ralph’s grocery store in Valencia about 6 months ago. She said she knew I was doing divorce’s and said she was having trouble with her divorce as far as the paperwork was concerned.  So she asked me for some advice and I gave her a few pointers to trouble shoot her case based upon what she told me the problems were.

Back to today.  She reached out to me via Facebook and asks me how much it would be to fix her Valencia divorce paperwork.  I give her a price via messenger and explain that we will take care of everything.  Her response was, ” It is just the judgment, everything else is fine”.

Honestly, this irritated me.

Here is why.  I know that not “everything else is fine” when you are turning in your divorce judgment.  This is because when you turn in your divorce judgment, this is the first time that the court reviews any of  your paperwork.

Everyone things all their divorce forms are correct, until they turn the judgment into the court.

Why Your Valencia Divorce Will Be Rejected Multiple Times

Here is a secret that I have told a million times.  When you turn in your judgment to the court, the clerks will find one or two maybe three reasons to reject your divorce judgment paperwork and send it back.  You fix those few mistakes and then they reject it again.

This is why we have created Valencia divorce judgment checklists.

Why do you think the judgment gets rejected so many times?  If everything is fine then why does it keep getting rejected for new reasons?

Exactly.

What also irritated me is that I also have her a second option.  I said, “pay for the California Divorce Tutor Uncontested Divorce package which is just $97 and I will walk you through wrapping up your Valencia divorce case.

I didn’t get a thank you or even a reply.

If you are not willing to spend even $97 to finalize your Valencia divorce, then I suppose your only option is to keep having your Valencia divorce judgment rejected.

Look folks, the Valencia divorce process is complicated.  You need professional help.  Otherwise you will struggle and your divorce will take years.

You are undoing a marriage of how ever many years.  Get it done right and have a professional company handle your divorce case.